INSECURE Season Four, Episode Nine and My Thoughts About It in No Particular Order
Nathan’s jabs at Lawrence are reminders that you can’t always tell your friends about your issues with your boo or ex or whoever, because when you’ve forgiven them, your friends haven’t! And, your friends never forget.
When Molly meets Issa for brunch, as much as she wants to engage Issa’s questions about her vacation, she can’t. A breached boundary has now created a wall, and she doesn’t trust Issa beyond that wall.
I need Kelli to have her own episode. #nobodygreater
You do not get to tell a person (or a people) how long they should or should not grieve over something that you’ve done to them.
Honestly, I don’t believe that Issa wants to discuss anything that requires her to “go deep.” That’s asking for an emotional intelligence that she doesn’t have and a level of vulnerability that scares her. Issa, it’s time. You gotta get a therapist, sis.
Give Ahmal more lines, please. Naw...just give him his own episode, too. Thanks!
Quote of the Season: “Do you wanna be right or wanna be in relationship.” Transparent moment: At certain times in my life, I’ve struggled with this. Doing the right thing is very important to me. It’s connected to past traumas and my need to feel safe. So, when I’ve been wronged, especially by family or friends, I took it very personally. I built an impenetrable wall and I effortlessly removed my presence from their lives, because, in my mind, I’M THE GIFT! Thank God for therapy. I’m not the same person I once was, but I’m still growing, so don’t try me.
“Girl I got it...I owe you like a decades worth of brunches...” —Issa
Again, nothing is more rewarding than when you collide with your calling. #culturalcurator
Molly is trying. But it’s hard. Molly is big on relationships and boundaries. Victor, Andrew’s brother, crossed a boundary when he challenged Molly in that pool. Issa broke a boundary that involved Molly’s relationship, and that’s a double whammy.
#PrayersforAndrew
Ok, so the problem is that no matter how hard Molly tries to make a relationship work, she can’t. Men who date Molly don’t stick around. However, Issa, who really couldn’t care less about any other dude besides Lawrence (and maybe Nathan), has always been able to create connection with men who want to be in a relationship with her. It goes to show you that you can have an impressive resume and be moral to the bone, and people still don’t want you.
Good job, Molly, for not chastising Issa about helping Nathan move after learning that Lawrence and her are back together. That’s not your job to fix Issa’s messes. Let grown people be grown!
When people show you who they are, believe them the first time; people know themselves much better than you do. —Mother Maya Angelou
I know a few Mollys. They are VERY educated, good looking, put-together women who’ve been brought up in traditional homes and instilled with equally traditional values. They usually have a strong work ethic and sense of worth and demand that their potential partners match what they are bringing to the table. They are admired by their girlfriends for their strength, professional prowess, etc., but looked over and sneered at by men who find them too opinionated, rigid, uncompromising and intimidating. These women desperately want love from a good husband; they want to be mothers. But these women are single, and after watching all their female friends get married, are close to giving up on the idea of marriage altogether. Most devastating, these women are Black. #unfair
So LaToya was cheating with her coach?? You hate to see it.
Issa is trying, but not in a way that Molly recognizes as “trying.” Trying for Molly starts with an apology, which she waited for the ENTIRE show. In a last ditch effort to get Issa to apologize, she poses the same question to Issa that her therapist poses to her. The gag? Issa gave her the right answer and not the one she expected. This is why you don’t play games! Molly is a deeply hurt, broken person who doesn’t see her part in her misfortunes.
AND, my bestie, Lauren, said that Andrew is probably gonna leave Molly. Damn. #itssocoldintheD